New Mum, New You? Let's Talk Wellbeing After Baby
There’s a quiet, often unspoken kind of grief that can come with new motherhood. It’s not about regretting the baby you love with your whole heart. It’s about losing touch with the version of you that once had the freedom to move through the day without interruption, to drink a full cup of coffee, go to the toilet without an audience, or just feel like your own person.
Motherhood is transformative. It’s powerful, messy, miraculous, and sometimes, it feels like identity theft.
If you’re a new mum, sleep-deprived, juggling the endless to-do list, and wondering, “Who even am I now?”, please know this: you’re not alone. And your wellbeing still matters, deeply.
The emotional load of becoming "mum"
Many new mothers find themselves grappling with more than just physical recovery. There’s the emotional labour of constantly being “on”, responsible for a tiny human’s needs around the clock. There’s guilt (so much guilt), self-doubt, hormonal chaos, and a pressure to feel nothing but joy.
But real motherhood? It’s joy and frustration. Love and loneliness. Gratitude and grief.
And all of those feelings can exist at once.
Ways to protect your wellbeing after baby:
👶 Ask for help (and accept it)
You’re not supposed to do this alone. Whether it’s your partner, parents, or a friend dropping off dinner—take the help. Let go of the pressure to be “supermum.”
☕ Find your anchors
A 5-minute shower. A warm cup of tea. Sitting outside while the baby naps. These small rituals can remind you that you still exist outside of your role.
🧠 Speak the truth
Say “I’m struggling” if you are. Say “I miss my old life” if you need to. Vulnerability is strength, not weakness.
💬 Rebuild your identity
You’re not the same person, and that’s okay. But you don’t have to lose all of who you were, either. You get to be both: a mum and a woman with dreams, opinions, and needs.
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